The Perks of Long Distance Relationship
Long distance relationships seldom work. So I've heard. But it can work, like it has for me (so far so good). This will all depend on who you are with, and the type of person that you are. I think it worked for us because he is a busy man. He only has time to text or call. No time for cheating. If he has the time, he would rather sleep. Plus, he is madly in love with me (that's what I want to think!). I also think that it is working because I don't go out, party and socialize. I prefer to stay home, work and be with my limited circle of friends. These, I believe, are two perfect circumstances of long distance love.
Don't get me wrong. If I had it my way, I would want him to be close so we can watch movies any time. Or have dinner here or at his place, or hang out with my folks or his. But I have to work with what I have. After all, being together is something wonderful to look forward to.
1. Communication:
Thanks to the information age, it is not difficult to stay in touch. There are social networks (although he does not maintain one). There is the ever reliable cellphone. Almost everything is just a text away. And he calls. Since we met in 2008, no day goes by without a text message from him. We communicate daily, which makes me feel like he is actually here.
2. Fights
Arguments. Well, we don't really argue because he seldom disagrees with me. But the fight are more bearable. I can think about the things I want to do before doing them or think about what to say before I say them. And I can be by myself to think things through. He can do the same. He will not be forced to answer right away. He can think about his rebuttal, excuses or what not. And this reduces the risk of saying things that we might regret later on.
3. Being single at the same time:
Since he is not here and I am not there, we can do our individual activities without worrying about neglecting the other. If he wants to play basketball, I don't have to be there to cheer him on (although, I might actually do that if he's here). He does not have to stay home bored, surfing TV channels while I read the Hunger Games trilogy over and over again. I can watch the movies I want, and he does not have to pretend that he is awake while we are watching them. :)
4. Gifts:
You will have all the time you need to think of a gift or think of a surprise. You don't have to hide things from him because he is not here. You can look for something for without making an alibi. That goes for him too. He can give me gifts whenever he wants, even without any occasion (I wish he's reading this!).
5. You give him and yourself a chance to miss each other:
Let's face it, you cannot miss someone unless you have that distance. You look forward to receiving a message or a call. You mark your calendar for his return and you promise yourself to cherish the time you will have together. Missing someone allows you to appreciate that person even more and the time you have.
So, can long distance relationship work? Absolutely, but only if you are committed to making it work. Of course, there is no substitute for having that special someone closer to you. And all long distance relationships wish to have that someday. But for now, just enjoy these little perks that only long distance relationships offer.
Don't get me wrong. If I had it my way, I would want him to be close so we can watch movies any time. Or have dinner here or at his place, or hang out with my folks or his. But I have to work with what I have. After all, being together is something wonderful to look forward to.
1. Communication:
Thanks to the information age, it is not difficult to stay in touch. There are social networks (although he does not maintain one). There is the ever reliable cellphone. Almost everything is just a text away. And he calls. Since we met in 2008, no day goes by without a text message from him. We communicate daily, which makes me feel like he is actually here.
2. Fights
Arguments. Well, we don't really argue because he seldom disagrees with me. But the fight are more bearable. I can think about the things I want to do before doing them or think about what to say before I say them. And I can be by myself to think things through. He can do the same. He will not be forced to answer right away. He can think about his rebuttal, excuses or what not. And this reduces the risk of saying things that we might regret later on.
3. Being single at the same time:
Since he is not here and I am not there, we can do our individual activities without worrying about neglecting the other. If he wants to play basketball, I don't have to be there to cheer him on (although, I might actually do that if he's here). He does not have to stay home bored, surfing TV channels while I read the Hunger Games trilogy over and over again. I can watch the movies I want, and he does not have to pretend that he is awake while we are watching them. :)
4. Gifts:
You will have all the time you need to think of a gift or think of a surprise. You don't have to hide things from him because he is not here. You can look for something for without making an alibi. That goes for him too. He can give me gifts whenever he wants, even without any occasion (I wish he's reading this!).
5. You give him and yourself a chance to miss each other:
Let's face it, you cannot miss someone unless you have that distance. You look forward to receiving a message or a call. You mark your calendar for his return and you promise yourself to cherish the time you will have together. Missing someone allows you to appreciate that person even more and the time you have.
So, can long distance relationship work? Absolutely, but only if you are committed to making it work. Of course, there is no substitute for having that special someone closer to you. And all long distance relationships wish to have that someday. But for now, just enjoy these little perks that only long distance relationships offer.
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