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Why You Need to Take it Easy on Yourself?

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How many times have you blamed yourself for things gone wrong? Plans going south? And goals remaining unmet? Often, you see yourself at a standstill, feeling like you are not getting anywhere in life. Yes, it is often disappointing to see how much you have given and yet you are still far off from your dreams. In fact, you will often feel that what you want are moving away from you, and perhaps, they are not meant for you. But these thoughts are just that, thoughts, they are not your reality, so get easy on yourself. What you feel is valid, but it is temporary: All of us feel that way sometimes, and it is important to recognize those feelings. However, we cannot dwell on them for long because if we do, we will fail to recognize all the good things that happened to us. We would miss the chance of enjoying our little victories. Although it does not feel good to see our plans shatter, remember that those are just hiccups. You can only stare at the broken glass for so long, b

What's in a Ph.D.?

Earning the third stripe is indeed a fulfillment. It is a manifestation that the years of sleepless nights, reading texts and references over and over again just to make sense of them, and depriving yourself of meeting friends and family, did not go in vain.  But really, why go through all that? And what happens next? I earned mine a little over a couple of years ago. Of course, I was proud, happy and fulfilled, but the biggest feeling was a relief. Finally, I can move on to other dreams, and start focusing my energy on other duties. But after all the celebrations and congratulations, everything went back to normal. I feel the same person, I did not feel like I was an expert on anything, in fact, it made me realize that there are so much more that I do not know. Often times, I would find myself not knowing how to respond. I realized further, that earning the degree does not make you an expert, at least not yet. It only strengthens your desire to know more, because whether we acknow