Random Thoughts

They say life is an unending cycle. Something starts, another ends. And it moves on. This is true with meeting people. In one lifetime, we make connections with tons of individuals. For a moment, it seems like we are meant to find them and share a special bond. After a while, we realize that we may cross path with few special people but they are not meant to stay in our lives. Have you had a close friend when you were in grade school and promised that you will be friends forever? Where is that friend now? If you still share that closeness, you are blessed. But for most, close friends have grown apart. Circumstances, distance and choices have weakened the connection. Even families have broken apart; wives and husbands who gave their promises to cherish one another are no more. There are siblings filing cases left and right because of properties and rights. Relatives have become indifferent because of favors declined and opposing opinions. The person you love and dee...

I love fairy tales. I’m in awe with how perfect a woman can be while living an imperfect life brought by an evil’s envy. Yes, the evil hates beautiful things, evil destroys them. But don’t fret; someone will always come to save the day, the prince. He will come for you, with his mighty sword, deep voice and a perfectly brushed up hair. He will come for you, riding his horse, offering you his hand. He always comes for you… you, a lovely damsel. Soon, you, a young beautiful lady will be freed from your miserable life, and of course, you and your handsome prince will live happily ever after. Yes, I love fairy tales. I grew up watching them. I love fairy tales, I just don’t believe in them. Not anymore. As much as I love them, I think they are misleading. Not all women need saving, not everyone who needs them get saved. Life is not a fairy tale. I’m not saying that there is no love in life. Of course there is. It’s just that, life is not always about a woman’s struggles and ...

I am not a believer of closure. But that’s me. If you think it will help you heal, be my guess. The thing is, I always believe that a person choosing to walk away from you… is by itself a closure. Why does that need explaining? Explanations do not change the fact that he left. He might have the best excuse, but that does not change the fact that he is gone. It’s over. You’re main concern now should be about picking the pieces and working on you. I still think closure is overrated, but recently, I realized it doesn’t hurt if you get the apology you thought you’d never get. Well recently, I spoke to someone who left me brutally damaged. After about two years, I received a text message from someone who I thought I will never speak to for the rest of my life. The thing is, I thought I don’t care whether he apologizes or not. I have decided to forgive him and let him go a long time ago. But honestly, the call got to me and it forced me to revisit my scarred heart. The thing about...

One of the realities of life is that people come and go. Not everyone we meet stays in our lives. We don’t get to stay in theirs either. But the length of time we spent in each other’s life is not what matters. What matters is we make our stay count.  Having said that, we hope to create an impact, big or small, to the people we meet, to the students we encounter, to the colleagues we see every day. And hopefully, when these people look back to the day they met us, they would say, we’re glad to have met this person. Not we’re glad that this person is no longer part of my life.