Random Thoughts

It is not difficult to move one from someone who was never yours. What is difficult is to say goodbye to a dream, a dream of spending the rest of your life with this person. It is difficult to let go of a dream, a dream you thought that came true. You thought, that maybe this time, he will look at you with the same love you have for him, that maybe this time, you found the one. The sad thing about letting him go is that you know, he was never yours to begin with. You do not have the right to ask for an explanation or a proper goodbye because he does not owe you that. That’s the sad thing about not making it clear from the start and being content to just be there by his side and not asking who you are to him. You cannot ask him to stay or demand for a chance, because you had all the chances to ask what you are to him but you did not. All you did was wait for his feelings to change and hope that he’d finally realize that you are supposed to be together. And so here you...

They say life is an unending cycle. Something starts, another ends. And it moves on. This is true with meeting people. In one lifetime, we make connections with tons of individuals. For a moment, it seems like we are meant to find them and share a special bond. After a while, we realize that we may cross path with few special people but they are not meant to stay in our lives. Have you had a close friend when you were in grade school and promised that you will be friends forever? Where is that friend now? If you still share that closeness, you are blessed. But for most, close friends have grown apart. Circumstances, distance and choices have weakened the connection. Even families have broken apart; wives and husbands who gave their promises to cherish one another are no more. There are siblings filing cases left and right because of properties and rights. Relatives have become indifferent because of favors declined and opposing opinions. The person you love and dee...

I love fairy tales. I’m in awe with how perfect a woman can be while living an imperfect life brought by an evil’s envy. Yes, the evil hates beautiful things, evil destroys them. But don’t fret; someone will always come to save the day, the prince. He will come for you, with his mighty sword, deep voice and a perfectly brushed up hair. He will come for you, riding his horse, offering you his hand. He always comes for you… you, a lovely damsel. Soon, you, a young beautiful lady will be freed from your miserable life, and of course, you and your handsome prince will live happily ever after. Yes, I love fairy tales. I grew up watching them. I love fairy tales, I just don’t believe in them. Not anymore. As much as I love them, I think they are misleading. Not all women need saving, not everyone who needs them get saved. Life is not a fairy tale. I’m not saying that there is no love in life. Of course there is. It’s just that, life is not always about a woman’s struggles and ...

I am not a believer of closure. But that’s me. If you think it will help you heal, be my guess. The thing is, I always believe that a person choosing to walk away from you… is by itself a closure. Why does that need explaining? Explanations do not change the fact that he left. He might have the best excuse, but that does not change the fact that he is gone. It’s over. You’re main concern now should be about picking the pieces and working on you. I still think closure is overrated, but recently, I realized it doesn’t hurt if you get the apology you thought you’d never get. Well recently, I spoke to someone who left me brutally damaged. After about two years, I received a text message from someone who I thought I will never speak to for the rest of my life. The thing is, I thought I don’t care whether he apologizes or not. I have decided to forgive him and let him go a long time ago. But honestly, the call got to me and it forced me to revisit my scarred heart. The thing about...

One of the realities of life is that people come and go. Not everyone we meet stays in our lives. We don’t get to stay in theirs either. But the length of time we spent in each other’s life is not what matters. What matters is we make our stay count.  Having said that, we hope to create an impact, big or small, to the people we meet, to the students we encounter, to the colleagues we see every day. And hopefully, when these people look back to the day they met us, they would say, we’re glad to have met this person. Not we’re glad that this person is no longer part of my life. 

Pera ba kayo?    …bakit?...  Wala lang…  Ayyy… corny man maam… waley… How often do we react that way: when things don’t live up to our expectations… Many of us give up easily because we are not getting our way. We fail to realize, that maybe, God has bigger and better plan for us. One of my favourite speeches nowadays is one by Jim Carrey. I’ll be quoting him a lot today. I thought of discussing something about investment. But then I changed my mind. You will have a lot of chances to discuss that anyway. I think it would be better to talk about life. Boring? Maybe so… but give it a chance… because life is a lot like investment. Life, just like investment, needs a leap of faith. Often, people are afraid to make an investment because of fear. According to Jim Carrey, we make a lot of decisions because of fear, and then call it practicality. Most of the time, we stay in our comfort zones because we feel that we are not good enough. But you have to reali...

They say the hardest part is starting something new, but lately I realize that coming to an end is just as difficult. Many things happened without us knowing that something is actually beginning, we enjoy it, we cherish it, and we think it would last. But not all happy beginnings last. Most need to end, and often we see the ending coming. This is not just true for relationships, but for almost everything we do in life. We start a journey and we look forward to the encounters we’ll make. But soon after that, we have to finish the journey, and although we do not want it to end, we have to. The biggest struggle perhaps is starting something new with so much enthusiasm, only to lose that level of excitement towards the end. With the challenges presented, we tend to retreat, asking ourselves why we are there in the first place. I guess the enemy of doing something and having the strength to finish what we have started is forgetting our purpose. Why we’re there in the first place. W...